Category Archives: parenting

Nourishment and friends

I used to write fiction to find the clarity I now receive from parenting. It sounds dubious and maybe a little self-righteous, but children have as much to teach as learn. I love my girls’ ability to feel each moment and be frank without asking for permission.

Today, we were scheduled to have lunch with a friend of Ryan’s: everything was going wrong. First, I hadn’t slept the night before, we ran late, forgot to bring diapers to the restaurant and Sofia kept crying but our lunch companions were beyond lovely; a somewhat new couple in love and the feeling was infectious. I loved the way they met cute as they say in Hollywood . . . it involved handwritten notes, a national forest and luck or fate, whichever you prefer.

Feeling so thankful for good friends and family today.

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There is poetry
Outside, the heat builds my
Baby’s sweat and I wonder if this is a bad situation.

Nature can be a blessing and oppressor, much akin
To our minds
Obsession with the news cycle
Rotating violence and the rare
Good fortune. It builds
Within what I feel looking at my daughter Olivia.

An olive came from a tree
I met my husband against the backdrop of a painted rainforest
In his remodeled bathroom. He asked me
If I liked his painting and I told him
no–that,
wasn’t the paradise he was looking for

Thank you for reading.

Have a lovely day,

Victoria

Homeschooling and Thomas Moore

I sat in the Pleasanton library with my dad and was annoyed; I couldn’t enjoy his company because of some high school boys loudly talking. So I immediately thought of homeschooling and Thomas Moore who wrote: “and if I don’t listen to my friends and neighbors, I’ll be stuck in the labyrinth of what I think I want.”

It’s overly simplistic to say that the boys’ noise was “keeping me in the moment.” However, Moore might argue that I could potentially learn as much from their disturbance as I could a hushed conversation with my dad, or quiet time spent reading.

This year I am homeschooling my girls and grateful for the opportunity. I can teach them more of what I want them to learn than in a traditional setting. The idea of Unschooling, particularly the “Taking Children Seriously” (TCS) movement appeals to me because the underlying idea is that learning is a continual process and questioning truths and authority is a good thing.

Instead of trying to compare Sofia to those rowdy boys, I should see her (and my) limitations in them. I believe this is is the same concept of TCS–assumptions and truths should be questioned as the quest for truth is a continual process. No one person (or institution like a traditional school model) can hold all the answers. Rather than calling myself her teacher, I’m trying to see myself as her facilitator to the world.

I love reading the following quote through a secular lens:

“God himself is born!
And so we see, God is not
until he is born.

And also we see
there is no end to the birth of God.”

D.H. Lawrence

I hope homeschooling Sofia doesn’t just take place on a schedule and that we can strive to be continuously learning and re-learning our truths.